Friday, 5 April 2013

Interactive Action-Steps to Help You Step Up the Awesome Setting!

I love this topic... It's the theme behind my brand: questioning how we quantify the overall quality of our day-to-day lives and how to step it up until we're Mad-Crazy-In-Love with life as opposed to mad about life.

Have you reflected on the quality of life you envisions v.s the standard your living in? Do they match up? Challenging your current Status quo is a concept that's been spinning in my head for a long time (think years) and it's one we all unknowingly feel at time when there's a disconnect. It's funny, because I keep meeting people who have reached similar conclusions around questioning the quality of their lives. There's this realisation that they are actually free and can do whatever they want.

Wherever you've arrived in life, there is always something we are wishing for, working towards and there will always be that expansion. I mention this because we mostly live according to what the norm is v.s creating the actual thing we want more of or to be part of.
There are two types of expansion I can comprehend presently:
1) the kind where you do (work towards a meansto an end) and never seem to arrive or in the hopes of arriving; never receive enough (the lacking state); and
2) the kind where growth and exploration (doing and learning) lead to more of this flow and sassy fire that drive you (abundance).What questions start turning in your brain as you read that?
The first thing that comes to mind is: attitude or perspective.

 When it comes to the actual things we fill our day to day life with; it's easy just to accept what we are told about how to go about it all or to fend off any sort of necessary change.

Where to start?

What are some of the rationalisations we feed ourselves when it comes to doing something that will rub against the grain... even to one's benefit?

Bare with me for a moment as I run through some thoughts on how we tend to do this; perhaps this will bring to mind some of the ones that are common for you:
  • How about these two all time favourites? "I can't afford to eat better." or how about "I wish I had more time to think, let alone exercise". Don't beat yourself up about it... just notice when these rationalisations appear.  they usually appears when something inside tells you you "should" be doing something... Mindfulness is a great place to start.

    Follow these leads and uncover the resistance to the change you're yearning for. You'll see that some of these rationalisations are really just safe scripts we use  to resist the unknown change. Evolution requires a bit of discomfort sometimes.
  • "I just can't take that holiday... The world will fall apart, I'm just to busy right now".

    Well, what do you think will happen when you push yourself against the same brick wall? Yep, you guessed it.. the same ol' unwanted results... I'm just saying! I aint even the first one to say it!
    My hubby owns a software development company... he works himself silly... and it has almost pushed him over the edge to the point of shut-down. It's time for a holiday. do something different.
  • "I can't start a business with my real interests, I'm too old", or wait, how about: "I'm too under-qualified, too young, too dumb, too thin, fat, short, skinny, shy, brash..." blah blah blah.
    Even if you only had 30 years of life left in you, wouldn't you want to see what happens when you reach into the curiosity/dream pocket?

    Leave the fearful lizard brain (as Seth Godin calls it) behind and play on the risky side a little... even if it's alongside something else your doing as a safety net. What you value always breads more energy and time... you just have to stoke the fire a little.
If you find yourself constantly swimming against the stream in your endeavours  create your own culture/ movement/ tribe, your own rules, your own adventures exploring the things that fuel your soul and values. Sure, you'll attract nay-sayers, even from those you value most, but what's better than that is, you'll also attract others who share the same interest and what's better than creating a community/friends that supports, shares and gives value in return?

Nothing worthwhile is really ever accomplished alone!... find an accountability partner.

Doing otherwise (doing something else that's not aligned with a little or more of what you want to create) will create more of a mismatch and disconnection... and that's no way to build autonomy and confidence.
The truth is that you are capable of doing whatever you want. How dirty are you willing to let your hands get? ... And I mean that in a hard-work way.

Drop the concept that instant "right" actions breads instant "desired"results or that one little action in the wrong direction won't bare any consequence or set you back from progress. Funny; how paradoxical and Ironic is that? Yet these are two concepts that we couple together all the time and they wreak havoc!

We only complain when we aren't getting what we want... So what do you want and what are you going to do about it?

Step into some inter-action 

Interactive Spoiler: The Vitality Concept.
If you're looking for something a little more interactive and you happen to live in Cape Town, I would encourage you to come to a free workshop on the 18th April that talks to the concept of settling v.s reaching your potential.
The Vitality Concept. Dr. Greg Venning will be dispelling any conventional wisdom (more like conventional lies) around nutrition. This workshop is FREE.
I've been to two of Greg's other free workshops and it's worth the hour of information that will just blow your mind. Greg talks to building more Vitality, reaching a potential that exceeds the norm of just settling ... And I'm down with that! Are you?

More about this workshop in the next post! (yeah, it deserves a post all for itself)!
Check out Dr. Venning's most recent post about this here to get a taste on what he'll be going a little more in-depth with: "Why Conventional Wisdom on nutrition is crap and is actually Conventional Confusion" (lol, got to love this title)!

Tools to help you shift into action and success

So to end this post, I stumbled upon... no wait I lie... I followed the leads and found it actually. This is a great tool to utilise when it comes to trying to follow through with anything you're trying out. It can be applied to anything. The woman who created it is SUSAN ALEXANDER and it's called app4Mind, check it out:

Here is the link for more about the steps:
I suggest that you head on over to her website, sign up for the newsletter and receive your copy of this chart.
I really loved how she speaks about "tracking" or keeping stock of the actions we preform.
Many have included this as one of the keys to following through and success. If you don't track it; how will you gain perspective and quantify it?
Perhaps a simplified analogy I can use is running a business. You can't not have an accounting system of some sort in place. You'll be able to account for the fact that money is coming in, yet won't be able to account for how it was spent.... leaving you wondering 1) where the profits were spent and 2) how will you know which investment generates the most return for your buck (effort)?

You might be well on your journey in creating more of what you want... It's a good practice to check in once and a while to see if what you're presently doing is still aligned for what you're creating. As anything that moves forwards, adjustments are definitely inevitable. When you follow the right clues and leads... It will open up into a level that surpasses what you thought you were ever capable of. 

I always share my findings on my Facebook Group page: Mad About My Life: step up the Awesome Setting here. You're welcome to join and subscribe... I share my findings there too.

To help you back into movement you're Mad about, click through the rest of the blog site and come try out some Early morning Yoga group classes at the dojo, Private Yoga Coaching or Semi Private Coaching with some friends.

Here's to being unstoppable in reaching what you want to create more of!